Most of us know what it’s like to be love sick. That empty, depressing, lonely, heart desperate, anxious, unsettled feeling you have when you are away from the one you love the most. Sometimes you can’t even eat because your heart is more fixed on that person (or the absence of them) then on the desire for food. The negative emotional states mentioned above are also scientifically proven to severely weaken your immune system making you far more susceptible to physical illness as well. So when a person is love sick, it often starts out as an emotional state but, if prolonged, often ends up as a physical sickness. Therefore, being “love sick” is a very real thing.
Having said that, has it ever occurred to you that the same thing can happen if the bride of Christ doesn’t get to spend personal time with Him? Think about it, a true relationship with Christ is based on a deep love. When asked what the greatest commandment was, Jesus answered “to love God with all your heart, soul, and mind (Matthew 22:37). He also said that if we love Him we will keep His commandments (John 14:15), and that we fall in love with Him when we truly come to realize that He first loved us when we were yet unlovable and gave Himself a ransom for us that He might redeem us from the curse that we brought upon ourselves. (1 John 4:19)
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.” – Ephesians 5:25-27
So we see that, though some may need to be saved by fear of hell (Jude 1:23), it is falling in love with Christ that will cause us to spend the personal time with Him that will truly change us into a fit bride. You see, when the above passage says that the bride of Christ is “cleansed and sanctified by the washing of the water by the word“, that is a special kind of “word“. The Greek word used there is “Rhema“, which means His living spoken word, spoken directly and personally to you, as in prayer, devotion, and personal time with Him.
This is not to be confused with “logo’s” which is the written word. Logo’s speaks of law and that which is written and passed down, but Rhema speaks of that which is spoken directly to your heart from God in the present. This is what brings conviction, instruction, direction, revelation, comfort, encouragement, and love, for it is in communion that we truly get to know someone and fall more and more in love with them. This is why Jesus encouraged us often through His “logos” written word from the past, to come in and sup, or commune with Him that you might receive His “Rhema” spoken word in the present.
Now be warned that a true Rhema word from the Lord will never contradict the Logos word since they come from the same source, as all manifestations of the Godhead will always agree with each other. (1 John 5:7-8) However, the importance of personal time with the Lord cannot be overstated. It is in this time that you are truly changed and develop the drive, strength, determination, and grace to be a good and faithful bride. Yet as with any true relationship, if time together is neglected the relationship wanes, suffers, weakens, and eventually you will stray from it. This is why Jesus said that the fruit of those who do not abide in His love and remain connected will wither and they will eventually end up being cut off and cast into the fire (John 15:6).
Now to come back to our opening point about being love sick. Having seen that our relationship with Christ is one of love, partly expressed as all love relationships are, by personal communion, we may come to realize that many of the emotions, anxieties, stresses, depressions, and even illnesses we face come from the fact that we are not spending time with the one we love the most. Jesus!
Many of the aggravations and offenses we struggle with may stem from a feeling of being robbed of that time by others or meaningless task. Furthermore, much of the guilt that struggling believers carry may be rooted in this lack of personal communion time with the Bridegroom, and the root of much envy may be found in jealousy against those who do. Yet if we are honest we have to admit that we will make time for what we love the most. Though the devil will steal your time, over work and overwhelm you, it is up to you to fight for time with the one you Love, and if you truly love Him, then fight you will.
“Beloved, when I gave all diligence to write unto you of the common salvation, it was needful for me to write unto you, and exhort you that ye should earnestly contend for the faith which was once delivered unto the saints.” – Jude 1:3
Just like the love sick fool who doesn’t eat because they care more about seeing or hearing from that loved one then their own belly, if you must fast to find the time and energy to get to Him, you will. The truth is that being love sick is real, not just for your spouse but for the Bridegroom also. It you do not make personal time to talk with and hear from the Lord then you will get spiritually sick, and believe it or not this can lead eventually to even becoming physically sick.
“My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings. Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart. For they are life unto those that find them, and health to all their flesh. Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” – Proverbs 4:20-23
Again the word for “word” in the original text here means the literal spoken word of God. A direct and personal message from the Word Himself to you, His bride. When you spend time with God and hear from the Lord (who is our help), it brings hope, which ignites a flame of passion, which drives action, to which the testimony of, stokes the flames of faith in love in others unto salvation and eternal life. But more then that only, hope literally brings health, that you might not only have life, but have it more abundantly!
“Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.” – Proverbs 13:12
“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” – John 10:10
“As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent. Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me. To him that overcometh will I grant to sit with me in my throne, even as I also overcame, and am set down with my Father in his throne. He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith unto the churches.” – Revelation 3:19-22